The proper place and the best place for children to learn whatever they need or want to know is the place where until very recently almost all children learned it – in the world itself, in the mainstream of adult life…We made a terrible mistake when (with the best of intentions) we separated children from adults and learning from the rest of life, and one of our most urgent tasks is to take down the barriers we have put between them and let them come back together. [Read More...]
Unschooling: Respecting Negative Emotions
My friend stopped over yesterday – and she was pissed. After a knock startling in its violence, she whipped open the door, removed each shoe and threw it down, slammed her purse on the nearest surface and flung herself onto my couch, launching into a loud, nearly incoherent tirade peppered liberally with expletives. [Read More...]
Unschooling: Constantly Learning
My son has a good friend who attends public school. As you can imagine, Paul and Thomas have many lively discussions about the differences in their days. Paul still can’t quite wrap his head around the unschooling philosophy. He’s not alone. Lots of people -children and adults alike – struggle to make sense of something that is so radically different from the mainstream. But sometimes listening to the two of them, I get a moment of insight into the very different ways Paul and Thomas view the idea of “learning”. [Read More...]
Unschooling: Recognizing Passion
Remember the movie Dirty Dancing? It’s one of my favorites. There’s a line in it that has often popped into my mind since having my twins. Near the beginning of the movie, Baby’s father says of her, “Our Baby here is going to save the world, ” after which Baby snidely remarks about her sister, “And Lisa’s going to decorate it.” Baby meant it as an insult, but I often think of this phrase when asked to describe my daughter, Faith – and it is the very opposite of an insult. [Read More...]
Unschooling: Saying Goodbye to “MY”
“Mine!” It’s a staple in my two-year old’s vocabulary these days. My dolly. My car. My puzzle. All true. [Read More...]





